What I wish my girls would hear ... final girl

The last two weeks I've been referring to the fact that although my girls hear my voice, I also know they tune out most of what I'm saying. When I try to express some "words to live by," they barely acknowledge me and I doubt retain more than 15 percent of what I said. But, as I keep saying, oh how I wish they would really hear me, really take some of what I say and apply it. What I want them to hear is the things that matter. Things that could make their lives better.

So, finally, for my 13 year old:

* Don't try to grow up so fast. I know you feel older and look older but you're still a child and its okay to be one.

I understand it's hard to see outside of your little world right now, but every once in a while, look around at your community, your state, your country. See what affects you. Find a cause, make a difference.

* Seek opportunities to get involved. Join clubs. Volunteer. It does your spirit good.

* Be an example. Not just to your little sisters, but to others as well. Be the bigger, better person. Be respected.

* Keep smiling that beautiful smile. You smile a lot for someone your age, believe me I've noticed. Don't lose your friendly spirit. It makes you approachable and makes others feel comfortable around you.

* Please don't compare yourself to your younger sister. I know that's hard, but you are unique with your own gifts and abilities and traits. Be proud of them and celebrate your differences.

* Thank you for always offering to watch your baby sister. Although she annoys you, deep down, she admires you and depends on you. You are like her second mommy. She needs you and always will. Do puzzles with her, color with her. Teach her games and sports. Show her you're just a kid too.

* Try not to worry what others think of you. I know that's hard to ask when you're 13, but it's okay to be silly, or dance, or be yourself in public. Trust me on this one; life's too short to worry about what others think of you.

* I know you think we don't know anything or don't understand your problems, and I know we can be embarrassing but Dad and I are on your side. We're your biggest fans so please don't shut us out.

* Accept change. You are a "point A to point B" personality but life doesn't always work that way. Let go and roll with it. It's okay to be disappointed but there's usually a reason for everything, even the bad things.

* Do your best to keep your mind innocent. There are so many songs and movies out there that aren't good for you, even if they say "PG-13." Keep your life as pure as you can for as long as you can.

* Set goals for the future. Never say you can't or not smart enough or good enough. Be who you want to be.

* Don't ever let a boy determine your worth. You set your standards high. You don't need a boyfriend to be happy. And remember, that the boy you choose should be respectful, kind and adore you and only you.

* Keep your room clean. I know that sounds very "mom" of me but I promise, an organized soul is a happy soul.

* Try to be patient with your sisters. Always be thankful you have them and be honored to call them family.

* I know you're tall and "mature" now, but in my and Dad's eyes, you're still our little girl and when we look at your face, we see our little baby, toddler, kindergartner and 10 year old. So we still want to hug you and kiss your forehead or just sit with you. When we give you rules that you don't like, remember how we see you and that we're just protecting our little girl. That's the job God gave us.

* Be proud of who you are and your talents and gifts. Don't let others categorize you. Some things don't come easy to you, but you always work hard and you don't give up. You are a fighter, you're positive and you're resilient. Those traits will make you a better person in the long run. Don't lose them.

* Please keep praying, keep reading your bible and keep "wanting" to go to church. Keep building your friendship with Him. He loves you more than I do, if that's even possible and He has great plans for you in this life.

* Finally ... remember God specially made you for a reason and blessed your life. You are a beautiful, intelligent, talented, and an amazing young woman. You have a gentle spirit and are compassionate, giving and well liked. A confident leader and a trusted friend. I am so very proud and beyond blessed that you are my daughter.